I think you haven't listened to me or what I've really wanted my whole life. You saw nothing wrong with warping a child to your own ends, or with restricting me from being really happy as long as I was properly controlled, and now you see no problem with telling me you've had it with being ignored, when you're well aware that I have plenty of reason to want to be far away from you. You may care about me, and your own behavior may be "my" fault, but the fact remains that you will always take the option that puts me where you want me for your own use over the one that's actually best for me, so long as you can tell yourself you're only hurting me within an acceptable limit and any complaints are just childish dramatics.